Asking Prying Questions

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Questions:

When are you going to pop the question?

When are you guys going to have another baby?

When are you going to mind your own business?

The first two questions here are rampant in our society and probably many around the world. The reason I bring this up is not that I have been hearing these questions, but that I have started thinking about asking them of my friends!

What is happening to me!!! It's very obviously none of my business or any other mom or dad or friend or little old lady who may or may not actually know the person who is on the business end of these questions.

That is simply information to be shared when the person with the information is good and ready. It is not information meant to be dragged out of people.

I have been dropping into the mindset of the slow-witted by even just thinking about this kind of thing and have had to actually dust off my creative thinking skills to come up with other more engaging and fulfilling questions. But when one gets those questions all the time, it is difficult to break the cycle.

Consider that someone you haven't seen for a while has been cheated on and couldn't think of "popping the question" or even dating for quite some time. If you bring it up, they could be hurt and decide not to share anything with you.

Or what if your friend from High School had several miscarriages or fertility problems and is devastated to even think about the emotional pain that has come along with trying to have a baby.

Questions that can seem so genuine and trite can actually cause a lot of damage. So my suggestion is to hold your tongue a little until you reach a level of friendship with someone where they are willing to begin to share information like that with you.

Put your thinking cap on and take off your rose colored glasses. Get to know someone by putting them first and not what you think they should be doing with their life.

Whew! That was long and very serious! We'll see how this goes over.

Trent